Timer vs. stopwatch

We all know about using a timer to stay on task, but have you ever tried using a stopwatch?

I did recently, and the experience was enlightening.

It was a Saturday afternoon and my husband and daughter were headed to the park.

I wanted to join them, but I also wanted a clean bathroom and to get a load or two of laundry going. Houseplants needed watering. Mail needed sorting. There was a mountain of empty diaper boxes and other recycling ready to find its way out to the garage. The baseboards were fuzzy with dust. All bedding required a refresh.

I didn't have a set window of time, and besides that, I didn't want to race against the clock. So, a timer was out of the question.

But I wanted to stay accountable to myself. I wanted to know how many minutes (or hours!) I was actually using to tick through these tasks before I joined my family at the playground.

As an experiment, I activated the stopwatch feature on my smartphone and got to work.

Doing chores while periodically checking in on a stopwatch is fascinating!

(Well, it is if you're me. I realize I might be in a minority here.)

First of all, I was amazed at how quickly certain tasks were completed (a clean bathroom in under 15 minutes!)—but more than that, I was surprised that the mere fact of the activated stopwatch made me move through my list differently.

How quickly could I knock through the stuff that felt most pressing, the tasks that were just too cumbersome with a toddler underfoot?

What on my list could I let go of—or, at most, give a bare minimum of minutes to?

How much time on a gorgeous Saturday did I really want to spend inside, cleaning, while my family played without me?

Turns out, my limit was just shy of 90 minutes.

Yes, there was more to do. (There's always more to do.)

But using the stopwatch helped me to see that at about the 90-minute mark, I was ready to say GOOD ENOUGH to my list in order to use the rest of my afternoon differently.

This experience got me thinking that I'd like to sing the praises of both these humble tools—timer and stopwatch—in case you hadn't considered how you might use them to your advantage.

To be clear, I advocate for using them less to manage time and more to bring a level of consciousness to our experience of time.

What's the difference?

Well, I'm not really trying to leverage anything. I'm not trying to account for every minute of every day.

I'm simply observing how I tend to use my time and how long I take to do certain things (and how long I take to do certain things when I'm timing myself).

I'm also a big fan of creating containers for myself to do tasks that, if I'm not paying attention, might otherwise consume the entire day (see #2 in this post from the archive).

So, a timer and a stopwatch.

They can be used in the same situations, but tend to provoke different feelings. One or the other might be more useful to you.

A timer

As you know, a timer is a device that counts down from a specified time interval.

Great for pacing yourself, a timer comes in particularly handy when you want to restrict the minutes you spend doing something.

You can base your time interval on the amount of time that's available to you (e.g. you have 15 minutes before you need to be walking out the door), or you can choose to use a timer when you have seemingly unlimited time, but want to chunk it as a matter of strategy (e.g. you have an entire afternoon to clean the house, but you want to spend no more than 30 minutes on the kitchen before moving onto the next room).

A stopwatch

A stopwatch, on the other hand, is designed to measure the amount of time that elapses between its activation and deactivation.

Great for timing yourself, a stopwatch comes in particularly handy when you want to know how long it takes you to do something.

You can activate the stopwatch as a singular exercise (e.g. you want to see how long you actually require to complete your morning routine), or you can start and stop it throughout the day as a means of understanding "where the time goes" (e.g. you use it for each activity, to get a handle on where you spend your time and how much).

When to use one over the other

Simply put, a timer counts down and stopwatch counts up.

It's the difference between watching time disappear and watching it accrue.

Two different approaches to the same understanding, and yet, one might work better for you because it creates a particular relationship to time. A different feeling about the time you have and how you use it.

Are you motivated by steadily chipping away at a set amount of time? Do you enjoy working against a deadline, self-imposed or otherwise?

Or is it more useful for you to observe time as it accumulates? Does it help you to finish up something when you see how long you've already spent working at it?

Different situations call for different methods. Experiment with each and see if and how they change your relationship to the clock. Share your findings below.

Less time, more meaning: a social media experiment

It’s called social media for a reason, right?

Yet how many times do I find myself scrolling and looking and reading and double-tapping…without even a lick of engagement?

You, too?

(It’s okay, safe space here. ;-)

Sure, someone posts something lovely or tragic on Instagram and you can bet I’ll leave a heartfelt comment (“Three cheers to you on your promotion! So deserved!” or “I’m so sorry to hear about Mr. Tiddlywinks. I know he was a huge part of your family”)—but aside from that, there’s A LOT of thought that goes on in my head when I’m scrolling and reading and liking…and very little of it makes its way into the comments section of anyone’s posts.

Very little of my social media activity is actually social.

What’s the point, then?

(This is how people lose entire hours to an app.)

A few weeks ago, I decided to set up a little experiment.

How can I become more engaged with the people in my feed while simultaneously spending less time on Instagram? I asked myself.

I played around with my phone settings and wound up creating a 15-minute daily limit for myself. I know, I know, 15 minutes seems like nothing. (And compared to my previous activity levels, it really is nothing!)

But 15 minutes a day felt like a good place to start, especially when I considered that my intention was to use less of my time doing this thing, but to use that time more meaningfully.

I became determined to use the minutes that I’m actually in the app to engage with other people, not to numb out or kill time or look at pretty pictures, mindlessly.

And it’s working.

How do I do this?

Easy. When I click on the Instagram app and the feed opens and refreshes itself before me, I engage with the very first post I see. No matter if it’s my cousin or a blogger I’ve admired from afar or Apartment Therapy—I leave a thoughtful comment about what I’m seeing and/or reading.

Then, the post below that. Same deal.

I do this until I start to feel a little spent—which, incidentally (and somewhat hilariously), happens way quicker than those 15 minutes are up, because I’m actually engaged the whole time. My mind is working, my curiosity is fired up, my empathy is tuned in.

I’m socializing. I’m present. I’m meeting the poster’s humanity with my own.

I’m treating these little squares as though they’re people in the room with me, as though a conversation—even the briefest one—is the natural progression of things.

This takes energy—especially for me, a highly sensitive introvert.

It means I’m not seeing as many posts.

And I’m definitely not keeping up with as many people as before (though I do make exceptions; there are some folks whose accounts I check out periodically, whether or not they showed up in my feed, and I don’t always leave comments there when I do; baby steps!).

But I feel more connected on the whole…and I feel as though I’m using my time better, more meaningfully, and with intention.