You're more ready than you think

I don’t believe you when you say you’re not ready. I just don’t.

I believe you’re scared, sure.

I believe you’re cautious, absolutely.

I believe you’re uncertain about how this thing will shake out, yup.

But not ready? I don’t buy it.

True readiness has nothing to do with fear, caution, or uncertainty; being ready doesn’t require the presence or absence of specific feelings.

 

This is difficult for you to grasp, I know, because somewhere along the way, you got the idea that readiness is linked to emotion—hell, that readiness IS an emotion. You’ve long thought you need to FEEL ready before you ARE ready.

Let me tell you something: Readiness is a decision. It’s a commitment. It’s active.

It doesn’t happen TO you. You CHOOSE it for yourself.

So, when you say you’re not ready and I say I don’t believe you, what I mean is this: I know you’re capable of deciding to be ready; I know you’re capable of commitment; I know you’re capable of take acting whenever you want to, regardless of how you feel.

You’re far more powerful than you think. I see it in you.

Isn't it time you commit to that first, small step of sending me a message (“Helen, this resonates with me!” will do just fine)—so I can tell you, specifically, just how powerful I know you are?

How to start before you're ready

You’ve got the seed of an idea in your mind...and, right on schedule with spring and through no conscious effort of your own, it’s just started to push through the surface and show a little green.

Are you ready to begin work on it?

(Psst! Here’s a not-so-secret secret: If you say you’re ready, you’re ready; if you say you’re not, you’re not. I promise it’s that simple.)

Will you water it and put sunlight on it and cultivate it, knowing that it’ll put forth its own effort no matter what? Knowing that it’ll meet you more than halfway? (After all, that’s just the nature of an idea that’s in season.)

Or will you hold back out of fear, out of a feeling that maybe right now isn’t The Exact Right Time to invest yourself, and next year might be better? In which case, that green that’s starting to emerge on its own? It’ll catch your eye every single time you walk by it...and remind you of what you’re not doing. It’ll be visual evidence that the idea is showing up and doing its part—so, what might be possible for it if you showed up and did your part?

A former client once told me: “One of the most transformative parts of working with you was learning to embody the idea of doing something before I feel ready.”

In our work together over the course of six mini sessions, we didn’t try to change how she felt.

Nope. We changed only what she did (or didn’t do) with those feelings.

She said it best: “I’m much more comfortable now with feeling ‘not ready’ and taking action anyway. You helped me change my mindset at a core level. And I now I don’t see it as an excuse to not move forward but instead as an opportunity.”

Want to change what you do (or don’t do) with your feelings? Comment below (“Seedling alert!” will do just fine) and include the best email address where I can reach you, and I’ll take it from there.